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Dr. Nicole Mirkin's avatar

This speaks to the part of growth that rarely gets talked about, the one where you pause and decide what you’re actually willing to trade. I like how it centers choice instead of pressure and shows that ambition doesn’t have to come from urgency. It makes career progress feel more like alignment than endurance. That feels like a way of moving forward that people can actually sustain.

Sameh @ Mayhem Living's avatar

Knowing when to say no and how to do it effectively is so impactful yet so difficult to master.

Janeica Davis, M.A.'s avatar

This is so relatable, Alex. As someone who has worked closely with leadership at every level, I’ve asked myself that same question: Do I want to be constantly available? I used to work as an assistant director, and when my director was out, I was the go-to person.

Over time, I realized that I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my peace and joy for the next promotion. I love how you outlined the habits in this article—many of which I’ve learned over my 13 years working in management and have put into practice. These are invaluable habits and extremely useful. I especially appreciate how you highlight the importance of being dependable and building trust, which is so crucial.

It is pretty wild, though how we’re expected to sacrifice ourselves for a promotion. It reminds me of this statement I used to hear all the time. “Perception is reality.” One in which I never agreed with but was the expectation. The appearance of always looking busy. Not something I was interested. I stuck with being dependable and building trust with my teams — That was enough for me.

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Janeica Davis, M.A.'s avatar

Yes so true! Valuable lessons indeed! Amazing job putting them into words.